Positive, Effective, Behavioural Supports - PEBS at Home

Disclaimer:  By no means are we experts.  We rely on the same instincts as everyone else.  Sometimes we get it right and sometimes we don’t. 

 

Bringing up a child is not a science. Every child is an individual with their own personality, strengths and challenges.  What works with one may not work with another. 

 

However, if we follow the rational behind PEBS as well as the school of common sense, there are certain principles that may improve our chances of success:

 

  • PEBS is proactive & positive – It is about prevention.

 

We need to be proactive and positive at home.  Kids thrive on positive reinforcement.  Recognition and celebration of accomplishments are important to building positive self-esteem 

 

  • PEBS is systematic – It is consistent throughout the school.

 

Consistency is so important when dealing with behaviours.  Sending mixed messages confuses kids as to what is right and what is acceptable behaviour.

 

  • PEBS is about teaching behaviours – Teachers take the time to teach expected behaviours.

 

Just like at school, children need to be taught what acceptable and appropriate behaviour looks likeThe old saying “he should know better” just doesn’t work.  Even the kids who cause few problems will have their moments and need to be reminded what good behaviours look like.

 

  • Expected behaviours are visible and reviewed periodically.

 

Keep the lines of communication open.  Spend time with your children and talk to them. 

 

  • PEBS is inclusionary – all stakeholders have input.

 

Although you are the parent and not the best friend, and must behave that way, the child must have a voice and feel that her thoughts are important.  Be a good listener and communicator with your child.

 

  • It is more difficult to reestablish parameters after the fact.  Start teaching your child when he is very young.  We often see parents who are trying to establish control when the child is a teenager.  What is “cute” at 2 may not be at 12.

 

  • Set boundaries and stick to them.  “No” is not a dirty word.
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  • Show and tell your child that you care for them and you love them.  They need the security that that understanding brings.  They need to understand that they will make mistakes as we all have and that you will be there to help them learn from their mistakes.

 

  • Do not be an “enabler”.  Do not make excuses for your child or run to his rescue every time he gets into some trouble.  Consequences are not always bad.  Teaching your child to be responsible for his actions is a good thing.

 

Expectations for Success:

At school  

  • To be respectful of others.
  • To use appropriate language.
  • To dress appropriately.
  • To attend classes and to be on time.
  • To put forth your best effort in class.
  • To have a positive attitude.

At home

  • To be respectful of yourself, your siblings and your parents.
  • To use appropriate language.
  • To dress appropriately.
  • To be home on time or to be to bed on time.
  • To always put your best effort forward.
  • To have a positive attitude.

 

If it is predictable…it is preventable!

 

E. MacPherson - AVRSB Supervisor of School Support Services

 

 

Important Dates

 

June 5 - Primary Orientation

June 5 - Graddes 1-6 Author in the School Geraldine Tuck

June 6 - Grade 7 Clean

June 7 - Grades 3-5 walk to Hantsport Heritage Centre

June 8 - JUNE FAIR

June 12 - Athletic Awards Night

June 13 - Elementary Spring Concert

June 12, 14, 16  - Grade 3 Swim to Survive

June 12 - Grades 3-5 Field Trip to Windsor

June 15 - Band & Choir Trip

June 16 - H& School Dance & Frenchy's Night

June 20 - Band Spring Concert

June 21 - Grade P-2 Field Trip to Recycling Plant Kentville

June 22 MLE Trip to Acadia for Mawio'mi

June 23 - Grade 7&8 Trip to Halifax

June 27, 28, 29 Marking Days NO SCHOOL for students

June 29 1:30 pm Grade 8 Closing

June 30 - Last Day of School

 

 

 

 

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